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2. What makes people feel good about themselves?
3. What kept Tuggy from telling the true story of his remarkable moment?
4. If Tuggy hadn't decided to tell the truth about his story, what might have happened?
5. What do Fiona and Moose really like about Tuggy?
6. Why didn't Tuggy think his good qualities were so important until Fiona and Moose said so?
7. Have you ever felt the way Tuggy felt? What made you feel that way? What did you say or do?
8. How can it hurt you to compare yourself with other people? How can it help you?
9. What can you do to feel better when you're feeling bad about yourself? What are some things you can say to yourself? What are some things you can do?
10. Think about a time when you were feeling bad about yourself and then felt better. What changed your feelings?
11. What things do we sometimes do or say that might make other people feel bad about themselves?
12. What can you do to help someone you know who's feeling bad about himself or herself?
1. Ask the children to imagine their self-esteem as a bucket of water. We start out feeling good about ourselves and our buckets are full. Every time someone puts us down, it's like punching a little hole in the bucket, and our self-esteem leaks out. Ask the children to think of ways people punch holes in each other's buckets and ways we can plug up the holes and feel good about ourselves. Make a list and compare it to the one at the top of this column ("How to Appreciate Yourself").
2. Recognize and celebrate children's positive qualities in a variety of ways. Here are some examples:
3. Divide the class into pairs. Each pair develops a skit about two people meeting each other for the first time. One tries to impress the other by telling about his or her accomplishments or possessions. The other talks about the kind of person he or she is and things he or she likes to do. With the large group discuss these two different views of what's important in a person.
4. Give each student a piece of paper. Ask them to write their names at the top and create a design or drawing that says something about who they are. Post the papers on a bulletin board and give everyone time to write positive qualities about their classmates on the individual sheets.
Other teaching guides in this series:
1. Write about a personal experience you've had that illustrates one of the points listed at the top of this column ("How to Appreciate Yourself").
2. Write about someone you admire. Describe that person's best qualities and why you admire him or her.
3. Imagine you overhear people talking about you. Write about some things you would like them to say about you. What would you not want them to say about you?
4. Write about a real or imaginary person who made up stories or pretended to be something to impress others. First describe what the person did. Then write about what happened as a result.
5. In a daily journal write about different things you've done to help people feel good about themselves.
To enlist the involvement of parents, make copies of the "For Parents" block (see below) and send them home with the children. Tell the children to discuss the video with their parents, and to perform the following activities.
1. Ask a family member about a time when he or she felt bad or inferior in comparison with others. What did he or she do to feel better?
2. Look for ways to compliment family members for their good qualities and positive things they did. Then write notes or a journal about how they responded and how you think they felt.
3. Play a "ways to appreciate myself" game with family members. Going around a circle, each person tells about something he or she does in times of self-doubt. It could also be things to say to yourself when you're feeling down or ways to remind yourself of your good qualities.
(Copy this block and send it home to the parents.)
Your child is involved in learning-activities designed to develop good character and empower young people to make good choices for themselves. He or she may be asked to complete several tasks at home. Your cooperation with these activities will support our overall program.
The current lesson is about self-appreciation. We have shown a video entitled "Appreciating Yourself," which presents a skit and discussion about someone who makes up stories because he doesn't think he's good enough. We urge you to ask your child to tell you about this video program and what he or she learned from it.
Here are some things you can do to help your children develop a healthy self-esteem.
Take their ideas and emotions as seriously as you take your own. Theirs are just as real.
Give praise and recognition whenever it is deserved. Your children need to hear it.
Encourage your children to participate in activities that make them feel good.
Give your children appropriate responsibility. It shows that you trust and respect them.
Show them that they are important to you. Spend time with them, attend school events, talk with them about their activities, meet their friends.
Give criticism without attacking their character. Criticize the behavior, not the child.
Tell them you love them. Say it often.
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