HOW TO SAY NO
This video helps young adolescents:
Look critically at the kinds of negative peer pressures they are under at this age.
Recognize some of the ways in which they internalize peer pressure.
Understand the harmful consequences of alcohol and other drug use.
See how innocent actions can often lead to serious consequences.
Learn some ways to resist negative peer pressure
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If you are using the video, ask the first two questions before viewing.
1. Agree or disagree: It's better to go along with the crowd than to make your own choices. Why do you agree or disagree?
2. What is peer pressure? What does it have to do with making choices?
4. Do you think peer pressure sometimes affects the way you or your friends make choices? In what way?
5. One boy in the video makes the point that peer pressure is nothing unless you fall into it, and you can choose not to do that. Do you agree with him? Why, or why not?
6. How do you decide whether or not it's okay to go along with the crowd. When is it okay? When isn't it okay?
7. How does it make you feel when you do something that you felt you shouldn't?
8. What makes it hard to say "no" to a friend?
9. What are the benefits of knowing how to say "no?"
10. One boy in the video said that when you're under the influence of alcohol, the alcohol starts doing your thinking for you. What did he mean by that? Do you agree? Why, or why not?
11. A girl in the video said that alcohol makes you say and do things you wouldn't if you were sober. Do you think that's true? If it is true, what's wrong with it? Have you ever seen that happen to anyone?
12. A boy in the video said that when you're under the influence of alcohol, you're a hazard to yourself and others. What did he mean by that? Do you agree? Have you ever known anyone to get hurt, or to hurt someone else, while intoxicated?
13. Do you think that movies and television make alcohol use look attractive or unattractive? Does that influence you in any way? Do you agree with the way they portray it? What changes would you make?
14. Do you know anybody who has ever benefited from smoking, drinking alcohol, or using other drugs?
15. Do you know anybody who has been harmed by smoking, drinking alcohol, or using other drugs?
16. Does anything scare you about using alcohol or other drugs? What? Why?
17. The kids in the video suggest that pressure to do something is a lot easier to cope with if you decide in advance what you are going to do. What did they mean by that? Do you agree? Can you think of some examples?
18. What was most meaningful to you in this video? Why?
Other teaching guides in this series:
1. People often give themselves excuses when they're about to do something they know they probably shouldn't. Here is a list of commonly used excuses. Have the class analyze each one and determine what's wrong with it. Then, ask them to think of other excuses that aren't in this list, and analyze those, as well
"Just one (or, a little won't hurt)."
2. Excuses are things we say to ourselves to get out of saying "no." What are some good things we can say to ourselves that will help us say "no" when we want to. Make a list and hang it on the wall as a constant reminder.
3. Make up several hypothetical situations and have the kids do role plays in which they practice the saying "no" method from the top of this column. Here are a few ideas to start with.
1. Write about a time when you had to resist strong peer pressure to do something you didn't want to do. How did it happen? How did it make you feel? Did you change anything or make any decisions based on that experience? What did you learn from it?
2. Write about someone you know who has gotten involved with alcohol or other drugs. How did it happen? How did it make you feel? Did you change anything or make any decisions based on that experience? What did you learn from it?
3. Write about the kinds of peer pressures that exist in your school or community. How do you feel about them? What could be done to reduce them or make them go away? What could you personally do to help improve the situation?
4. The kids in the video make the point that pressure to do something is easier to cope with if you decide in advance what you will or won't do. Write about a time when deciding in advance helped you, or would have helped you, deal with a tough situation.
5. Imagine that some day you will have children. Write a letter of advice for them to read when they reach the age you are right now. Tell them what you think about alcohol, tobacco, and other drugs, and how you hope they will deal with these things in their own lives.
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